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Posted in Uncategorized on December 25, 2012 by Me

3 days old

Our 12/12/12 Miracle at only 3 days old.



The birth story summary

Posted in Uncategorized on December 23, 2012 by Me

(Placed here for safe keeping until I get around to blogging the longer version)

  • Blood pressure creeping upwards through weeks 36 and 37
  • 12/7–  24-hour urine collection to check fro pre-eclampsia
  • 12/10– OB calls Monday night while we’re shopping in WalMart– I have pre-eclampsia and we are inducing at 4:00 the next morning
  • 12/11– 7:00 AM Pitocin is started. Instructions are given to increase the dosage every hour.
  • 10:30 AM water is broken so that an internal monitor can be placed on the baby. I am dilated to 2.
  • Sometime later (Noonish?) the monitor is dislodged and has to be reinserted. Nurse nicks the placenta with reinsertion.
  • 4pm-ish Epidural is given so that I can be put on a catheter, rather than getting out of bed to potty and potentially causing the monitor to dislodge again.
  • A little later, my left side is VERY numb. Not so much on the right. Dr. says it’s just the way that it went in and that there’s not a lot that can be done. Pushing the pain control button, just makes the left side more numb.
  • 7:30 PM Night nurse comes in and realizes that pitocin has only been increased twice for the entire day shift. The schedule is now to increase it every 30 minutes. I am dilated to 3.
  • Pitocin briefly increases contractions with each raise, but then my body adjusts and contractions level off again.
  • I am given until 10:00pm to begin dilating again, or else I’ll have to have a c-section.
  • At 9:30 I’ve dilated to 5.
  • Temp check at around 10:30 shows a fever of 100.3.
  • By midnight I’ve dilated to 8.
  • Somewhere in here, I start to shiver uncontrolably. For 3 hours. Nurse says it’s a reaction to the pain. Shivering goes away with a blanket.
  • By 2:00AM, I’m a 9.5.
  • 2:30 AM, nurse calls in another nurse to manually push back my cervix from the baby’s head. Baby’s heartbeat starts to be a little irregular.
  • 3:00 AM and I’m ready to push. Another temp check shows my fever has increased. I can’t push until I have two different antibiotics administered.
  • 4:00 AM I can finally start pushing. Temp has continued to rise, and I am burning up. I feel like I can’t breathe and I’m so so so very hot. This will be a theme for the next 3.5 hours.
  • 4:30AM-6:30AM Pushing, pushing, pushing. 3-4 pushes with every contraction. Contractions are about 2 minutes apart. I’m so exhausted that I actually fall asleep and start snoring in between the contractions. Somewhere in here my epidural is cut off so that I can push more effectively.
  • 6:30AM Nurse makes it clear that we need to start making good progress NOW. Baby is showing more distress, and there is concern over my temperature and the fact that my water has been ruptured for so long (infection). More pushing, and baby’s head makes a couple of brief appearances.
  • 7:00AM The day nurse comes in and informs the night nurse that I need to be prepped for my “section”. I am very confused as to why there is talk of a c-section when the baby is already almost delivered. Too tired to voice the concerns. The two nurses argue about whether I need or will be getting a c-section. Day nurse leaves, night nurse pointedly says to Stan, “I will be staying with you until this baby is delivered. I don’t care how long it takes”. Nurse also makes it clear that the baby needs to be crowning before the doctor gets into the delivery room, so we push.
  • 7:10AM Baby is crowning, doctor arrives, sees that the baby is almost here, and calls in her enterage for the delivery. Anisthesiologist turns epidural back on.
  • More pushing. The doctor and I both think of vacuum extraction at the same time– I’m just too tired and the baby needs to come Out Now.
  • 7:25 (or so) vaccuum is hooked to baby, and after two more sets of contractions…
  • 7:31 Seth is born!
  • Baby is grunting, not crying, so he is quickly cleaned up and taken to the nursery for further assessment (to see if he needs oxygen, and whatnot). One fabulous nurse brings him to me to see him before he is whisked away.
  • Placenta doesn’t deliver properly, so doctor has to go in and manual remove it, and then do a partial D&C. This is NOT pleasant. Doctor is visibly concerned.
  • Luckily I don’t hemmorhage. Final tally is one level 2 cut and a long tear all the way up the birth canal. Epidural has kicked in, which makes stitching nearly painless.
  • While I am recovering, Stan comes in to tell me that Seth has low blood sugar and that they are having to give him formula, since I am in no condition to try and feed him. (This would make the birth plan a total loss, LOL, as literally nothing went as we would have preferred).

24 hours of labor, 3.5 hours of hard pushing, internal monitoring, vacuum extraction, placenta won’t deliver, partial D&C… I’m very thankful that I managed to dodge the hemorrhaging complication.

14w2d– New Doctor!

Posted in Uncategorized on July 2, 2012 by Me

Today I got to meet my new OB, Dr. Michaels… and she was WONDERFUL! She took her time with me, explained what to expect with the pregnancy, what the timeline looks like between now and delivery, and was just a generally compassionate, fabulous human being. The only downside was the 1-hour wait time, but given the quality of customer service in the office, and the care that I received, it’s totally worth it to me. I’ll just bring a book 🙂

She was not surprised that Dr. Wrightson told me that I needed to lose weight, but she also certainly didn’t agree with him. She actually gave me the range of 25-35lbs as acceptable weight gain (the specialist would like it to be closer to 15-20lbs). I had so much anxiety going into this appointment, that I was completely beside myself because I had gained another 2 pounds (bringing my total weight gain to 4 pounds). I’m hoping I can stop obsessing about every pound now and just focus on the bigger picture and eating healthy.

Blood pressure was back where it should be, if a little low– 91/62, which explains why I’ve been so dizzy lately. Basically I need to make sure that I’m drinking 3 liters a day of water to help keep the second number above 60. I also need to always keep in mind to move slowly when getting up, so that I don’t pass out.

The Spawn was ALL over the place today during the ultrasound, so once again, no great pictures, lol! I can’t wait until I can get a 3-D scan done. The heart rate was strong and right on target. Dr. Michaels didn’t necessarily think that we needed to do the amnio, but she also didn’t try to talk us out of it, which was comforting. Dr. Vo (the specialist) has a miscarriage rate of less than 1/1000, which also helped my confidence levels.

Next appointment is with the specialist on the 17th for the amnio (and then we’ll know the sex too!), and then back with Dr. Michaels on the 25th to go over all of the blood work from the first doctor and do the next check up.

How NOT To Treat A Pregnant Patient…

Posted in Emotions, Pregnant, Shitty OBGYN, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on June 18, 2012 by Me

So, I just had my first visit with my OB, Dr. Wrightson (I saw his RNP, Sarah before, and she was fabulous!!). I am now looking for a new OB because in the brief 12-week visit, I berrated and told:

  1. I am fat and should be LOSING weight, not gaining it. Yes, I’m overweight (292 at 5’10” with a large frame). I have gained a total of 2lbs so far (12w2d). My Perinatal Specialist says that she’d like to see me gain a total 15-20lbs. Dr. Wrightson vehemently disaggreed. He also told me that I should have been exercising all along, because “exercise has no bearing on a high-risk pregnancy”. I’m 42 and my BP and Blood Sugar are both low-normal.
  2. Because Medicaid will pay for OTC meds with a prescription, I asked if he would write me a script for my prenatals and two other OTCs that I take. He informed me “just because Medicade WILL pay for something, doesn’t mean that they SHOULD pay for it, ” and told me that we should just be paying out of pocket for OTC stuff. He then refused to write a script for anything but the prenatals.
  3. When I told him that we are both currently unemployed (my husband is an out-of-work teacher) and that every littly bit helps, he pointed out that we are having a baby. When I told him that there wasn’t much that can be done about it now, he said, “Well there WAS something that COULD have been done about it.” Insinuating what? That we should have had an abortion!? I told him that that wasn’t an option, and he rolled his eyes at me (and apparently mumbled something under his breath, which I didn’t hear, but my husband did).
  4. I had the normal bloodwork done at my last visit, but he didn’t bother to go over any of it with me, instead he simply handed me my chart and walked out of the room. Luckily, I know a little bit about medical tests, so I was able to puruse my lab results and find out that I’m not a CF carrier, and the I have no Rubella immunity (which I already knew). Oh, and I’m Rh+ which would have been nice to know. If i would have been thinking more clearly, I would have just walked out of the office with the chart.

Needless to say I was horrified, and terribly upset. My husband desperately wanted to hit the guy. Knowing absolutely nothing about us or our circumstances, this man did nothing but judge us harshly and obviously find us unworthy to be parents.

The really strange thing about all of this is that he came to me highly recommended! If you look at his online reviews, they say things like “caring”, “patient”, “kind”, “wonderful human being”. It makes me feel like I must be some sort of troll for such a man to dislike me so much! Apparently he’s a great doctor if you’re not fat and poor. *eyeroll* Even if he was having a bad day, it really doesn’t excuse the way he treated me. I left there feeling like he would rather something happen to my baby, than have it raised by a fat, poor, old mother.

Stan has been on the phone with Dr. Vo’s office (my Perinatal Dr.) and they are horrified as well. Her nurse is checking to see if Dr. Vo will take me on as a regular labor and delivery patient, or if she can recommend someone who will treat me with more compassion, and possibly like a human being…

The plan at this point is to write a letter to send to the hospital board, the program that referred me to him, and to him.

Posted in Uncategorized on June 6, 2012 by Me

So well written!

trying to be good

I just finished babysitting your baby today.


I have salmon stuck on my neck and in the crease under my left breast.

My eardrum is damaged due to high frequency screaming.

I had to hold her while I was peeing because from her perspective it seemed like Satan himself would rape and kill her slowly if I put her down thus I did not get the chance to wipe myself properly…


…no matter though as I am covered in a thick layer of sweat from pushing the stroller up the hill so a bit more wet between the legs even things out.

I washed my hair this morning but all of a sudden it looks like a stringy bag of shit pile.


I haven’t had a chance to eat anything except snatching a few cold peas from her snack pack and my head is pounding.

I watched her draw on…

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