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24w 5d– Lots of catching up to do… Part the first

Posted in Incompetent Cervix, Pregnant, Pregnant Sex with tags , , , , , , , , , on September 13, 2012 by Me

A lot has been happening here, and I’ve been bad about keeping up this blog.

So, let’s back up to my routine visit with the perinatal doc on 8/29 (22w4d). This was an in-between visit to check my cervix, and make sure that it was holding up to the now 1lb+ baby. This was also the first visit I went to by myself, as the hubs is happily working at his new teaching job (7th grade history!). Oh, an my regular peri was having her baby on this day, so I was seeing an associate of hers for the first time. I should have known something would go wrong, lol! Well, the ultrasound showed that my cervix had shortened from 3.0+cm to 2.2 over the course of two weeks. This was NOT a Good Thing. The doctor explained Incompetent Cervix to me (is that one of the stupidest sounding diagnoses, or what!?), and then she listed out my options– 1. I could have a progesterone shot (17P) and then go home on Modified Bed Rest for the next week, and then recheck to see how it was doing, or 2. I could have the 17P shot and go to the hospital to have a Cervical Cerclage placed to hold the cervix shut, and then still do the bed rest until the next week. I felt that I needed to research and weigh what was happening, so I opted for option one. Stan (the hubby) picked me up from the appointment, and I went home to Google and cry.  Research showed me that the cerclage needed to be put in before the 24th week, and that it had a decent success rate, so the next day I called the office and the scheduled the surgery for the next day.

The surgery involved an epidural, so I could have nothing by mouth for 8 hours prior– this led to spectacularly low blood sugar (61), and an early admission for me, so that they could get an IV and some dextrose into me. The epidural sucked (I’ve had one before this, and it sucked too), but the anesthesiologist was amazing (Dr. Dempsey for those in the Vegas area). The surgery was… interesting. I was on the operating table, with my legs in the stirrups,  and the table tilted back to a 45 degree angle.

Like this, but without the supportive boot, and of course, I was naked from the waist down…

My peri did the surgery, and she informed me that I had a “difficult cervix”– I would expect nothing less from my cervix. She ended up putting in two very thick stitches. Surgery went well. I had no contractions, and my amniotic sac remained intact– yay! I was able to get a sandwich in recovery and lots of apple juice, and about 3 hours later I could feel all of my parts and use the potty, so they let me go home. I was kept on modified bed rest and pelvic rest (read: No sex, and no orgasms. Yep, you read that right– no orgasms until after The Spawn makes his appearance). The doctor also switched me from the 17P injections to a vaginal progesterone  suppository that has been shown to lower cervical elasticity and help prolong the pregnancy.

Recovery went well, with very little pain and only a small amount of discharge. I’ll continue this saga with my next post…

21w– Wow that was awkward! TMI Warning! :)

Posted in Pregnant, Pregnant Sex with tags , , , , on August 18, 2012 by Me

Doesn’t that warning just make you want to read it a little more? Well, if you do, you were warned, so don’t blame me! Heh.

This sentence is here to take up space in the Facebook preview screen. Aren’t I so creative??

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Ok, so here’s something that no one tells you before you get pregnant– sex can be REALLY awkward! Trying to find a position that works for both parties and doesn’t leave me hurting in one way or another is not the easiest thing in the world (nothing is as sexy as having your wife yell, “Ow! My hip!” when you’re trying to get it on. I swear, I felt like an 80-year-old woman! LOL!!). Add to it that we were feeling adventurous (read: “Lazy”) and decided to have sex on the living room floor, rather than going up to the bed (Roommate is out of town, woo hoo!), and hilarity will ensue. We were both laughing at several points because of the sheer awkwardness of the situation. Luckily, primal instinct won out, and we were able to find a way to sufficiently bolster me up and achieve our mutual goals. But damn, it was awkward :p

After it was all said and done, I decided to go hunting for positions for pregnant and/or overweight people– I’ll leave a few links here, so that I can perhaps save you from re-experiencing that moment of virgin awkwardness  from your youth 🙂

One caveat here– some of these positions could  really use illustrations. I’m still not entirely clear on the logistics of several of them. Maybe I need to sit down with a pencil and paper and try to sketch them out…

Oh! And don’t forget that the woman shouldn’t be flat on her back after the fourth month, as this can put weight on her abdominal arteries and cause her to pass out.

Now to the links:

Assume the Position (this one has some rather useless pictures, but good information)

Sexual Positions for the Obese/Pregnant Woman

Comfortable Sexual Positions for Pregnant Women

There are more, but mostly they just repeat the same information. Good luck to those of you who are pregnant and embarking on the journey of carnal pleasures! Remember that it’s healthy to laugh at yourself when it all becomes horribly awkward– sex can be even more fun when you both have a case of the giggles 😉

20w 3d– Half Way!!

Posted in Pregnancy Symptoms, Pregnant with tags , , , , , , , , , on August 14, 2012 by Me

Wow, I’ve really been neglecting this blog… I blame the baby. He’s been eating all of my creativity :p

First, we have decided on a name for the Spawn: Seth Alexander Leonidas.

Second– Holy Crap, I’m half way!!

I’m still having issues with low blood pressure/blood sugar, but I’m figuring out how to preemptively strike to avoid the spectacular crashes that I was having. Added to the mix is Pubic Symphysis Separation, also known as “broken crotch” on the December 2012 boards on babycenter.com (by the way Google Image “pubic symphysis separation” at your own risk– the pictures are pretty horrific!). Which means that, unless I’m sitting in what I now refer to as “an approved pelvic position”, my pubic bone feels like someone has been kicking it (which I guess someone has… lol). I’m talking to the OB next week about getting a prescription for a custom support belt, which will hopefully help. Sleeping with this issue has become a huge challenge, but thankfully, a fabulous friend is sending me her pregnancy pillow this week, so hopefully that will help! Otherwise, things are good. Given my age and my size there are TONS worse things that I could be dealing with, and I am incredibly grateful that things are progressing as nicely as they are.

Today’s ultrasound went well. Seth has everything in the right place and right proportions. He is still measuring almost two weeks ahead (1lb 1oz today!), so they are going to be watching that carefully so that he doesn’t get too big. We are still hoping for a 12/21/12 birth, because that would be cool. I’ve also hit the point in the pregnancy where I will be seeing the perinatal doc every two weeks. Well, not her for the next few appointments because she’s due next week–in the meantime, I’ll be seeing her associate who is also fabulous. In a month, we’ll be seeing the pediatric cardiologist to make sure that everything is ok, because of that worrisome Nucal Scan. Things looked perfect on the ultrasound, but she wants to be sure, and I’m ok with that 🙂

The baby registry is almost finished, so we’ll be sharing the link soooooon! I hate shopping, so I’ve had to do it in small steps, but we’re almost there. Yay!

Hopefully I’ll be better about keeping you all updated! Thanks for your good thoughts, support and interest 🙂

So dizzy!

Posted in Pregnancy Symptoms, Pregnant with tags , , , on July 5, 2012 by Me

Can someone please tell me how I’m suppose to get anything done when my head is spinning like I’m drunk all the time? For the last two days, the only time my head stops spinning is when I’m laying down. I’m getting at least my 3 liters of fluid in, so I don’t know what’s up. I really wish I had a home blood-pressure monitor, so I could see if that’s what this is (although I suspect that it is, since I’ve been running so low). This seriously feels like I’ve been drinking *almost* too much.

I don’t know if it’s because I’m a wimp, or because this is a first pregnancy and I just don’t have any perspective, but I’m so tired of feeling melodramatic and non-functional!! I feel like I should just be able to push through these symptoms, but it just doesn’t work. I’m really scared that I’m going to pass out in the middle of giving a massage, which would be so NOT professional, or that it will happen somewhere in public, raising alarms and 911 calls… *sigh* The good news is that I haven’t fainted yet, but I’ve come very close to it once, and not quite as close a couple of times. Even as I’m sitting here typing this after dinner, I’m spin spin spinning. I swear my body only wants to be horizontal. It’s dumb and frustrating. (and it’s my blog so I’ll pout if I want to, lol)

Someone please stop the spinning, because I need to get off :p

How NOT To Treat A Pregnant Patient…

Posted in Emotions, Pregnant, Shitty OBGYN, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on June 18, 2012 by Me

So, I just had my first visit with my OB, Dr. Wrightson (I saw his RNP, Sarah before, and she was fabulous!!). I am now looking for a new OB because in the brief 12-week visit, I berrated and told:

  1. I am fat and should be LOSING weight, not gaining it. Yes, I’m overweight (292 at 5’10” with a large frame). I have gained a total of 2lbs so far (12w2d). My Perinatal Specialist says that she’d like to see me gain a total 15-20lbs. Dr. Wrightson vehemently disaggreed. He also told me that I should have been exercising all along, because “exercise has no bearing on a high-risk pregnancy”. I’m 42 and my BP and Blood Sugar are both low-normal.
  2. Because Medicaid will pay for OTC meds with a prescription, I asked if he would write me a script for my prenatals and two other OTCs that I take. He informed me “just because Medicade WILL pay for something, doesn’t mean that they SHOULD pay for it, ” and told me that we should just be paying out of pocket for OTC stuff. He then refused to write a script for anything but the prenatals.
  3. When I told him that we are both currently unemployed (my husband is an out-of-work teacher) and that every littly bit helps, he pointed out that we are having a baby. When I told him that there wasn’t much that can be done about it now, he said, “Well there WAS something that COULD have been done about it.” Insinuating what? That we should have had an abortion!? I told him that that wasn’t an option, and he rolled his eyes at me (and apparently mumbled something under his breath, which I didn’t hear, but my husband did).
  4. I had the normal bloodwork done at my last visit, but he didn’t bother to go over any of it with me, instead he simply handed me my chart and walked out of the room. Luckily, I know a little bit about medical tests, so I was able to puruse my lab results and find out that I’m not a CF carrier, and the I have no Rubella immunity (which I already knew). Oh, and I’m Rh+ which would have been nice to know. If i would have been thinking more clearly, I would have just walked out of the office with the chart.

Needless to say I was horrified, and terribly upset. My husband desperately wanted to hit the guy. Knowing absolutely nothing about us or our circumstances, this man did nothing but judge us harshly and obviously find us unworthy to be parents.

The really strange thing about all of this is that he came to me highly recommended! If you look at his online reviews, they say things like “caring”, “patient”, “kind”, “wonderful human being”. It makes me feel like I must be some sort of troll for such a man to dislike me so much! Apparently he’s a great doctor if you’re not fat and poor. *eyeroll* Even if he was having a bad day, it really doesn’t excuse the way he treated me. I left there feeling like he would rather something happen to my baby, than have it raised by a fat, poor, old mother.

Stan has been on the phone with Dr. Vo’s office (my Perinatal Dr.) and they are horrified as well. Her nurse is checking to see if Dr. Vo will take me on as a regular labor and delivery patient, or if she can recommend someone who will treat me with more compassion, and possibly like a human being…

The plan at this point is to write a letter to send to the hospital board, the program that referred me to him, and to him.